"How long have you had her?" ....ummmm... since conception.
"When did you get her?" .... nearly 9 months later.
"Is she yours or is she adopted?" ....either way, she'd still be mine but no - she's NOT adopted.
These are all questions I've heard verbatim when I'm out and about with Hannah Mai. Personally, they drive me nuts! Given, Hannah's Asian characteristics (from Daddy) are dominant, I can't argue that much. It's the way people comment that kills me.
That being said, I've been trying to think of a polite way for someone to ask the question. Maybe...
"Does she look more like her Daddy or Mommy?" - sneaky, but would be nicer.
"She's so sweet! Was labor as sweet?" Ha! Don't expect anyone to actually say that but at least they are assuming I DID have her and if she was adopted, THEN I could clarify.
I know it's more likely that a white woman with dark blond hair and blue eyes adopted this beautiful child but it's just not the case. Nope. I carried her for nine months, went through 18 hours of labor and dealt with months of food allergy-related colic. Give me the benefit of a doubt - please! After all, there is a great movement in this country of interracial marriages producing bi-racial children, I'm not the first.
Just a few thoughts... Next time you see a child that looks adopted - please don't assume they are. If in doubt, don't even ask. That's my two cents. ;)
Until next time,
P.S. I'm totally FOR adoption... James and I would love to do that some day. Just making a point.